Eye Fucking

If you want a guy to know, without a doubt, that you like him/want his penis in you, all you have to do is look at him. Look him in the eye and don’t blink or break contact for five seconds. It doesn’t sound like a long time but in terms of gazes it’s an eon.


I read about this little technique in a Cosmo when I was maybe fourteen or fifteen. I tested it out that night at dinner and one of the waiters gave me his phone number when I went to the bathroom. I did it to the Christopher-Atkins-look-a-like waiter at the Tommy Bahamas restaurant too.

It’s beyond checking a guy out. You are having a stare down. You are Eye Fucking. This is not the same as eye raping. The difference being, the rape factor. Eye raping somebody is when you check them out and you look everywhere except their eyes. It’s considered raping because the person, who you are undressing with your eyes, may not even know you are looking at them and therefore did not give consent for the imaginary undressing.

Eye Fucking a guy has worked almost every time I have done it. I see a guy in a bar, grocery store, coffee shop, five seconds of eye-contact, he walks over, says something cute and done deal. Of course, sometimes once they approach, they do something or say something stupid and the deal is off. I think, you were much more attractive until you started speaking. It’s back to the produce section for you.

However, the feelings have to be there for the guy too. Or it doesn’t work. It’s not a magic love spell. It’s eye contact. You can’t will someone to be attracted to you by staring them down. If a guy doesn’t feel the same way he will break the eye contact. And then you know. You may want his penis, but he doesn’t want your vagina.

But be observant, even a guy who likes you, but is maybe a little on the shy side or sexually conservative side, may look away. And some people just don’t like to be stared at and will always break eye-contact. But if you don’t break eye contact for five seconds, it is safe to assume the feelings are mutual and you two wouldn’t mind doing the horizontal boogie at some point.

Eye Fucking is also good for that point after you’ve been seeing someone and you weren’t really sure whether you wanted to be naked with them and then they say something or do something that strikes a chord in you that you do want to be naked with this person. That’s when it’s time to give the look. Let them know it’s on.

I try not to abuse the Eye Fuck. I only use it if I really mean it. I don’t go around staring every guy down that I think is half-way attractive. That would just be stupid. I really don’t need every Tom, Dick, and Harry thinking I want him to put his pee-pee in me.

That’s not to say that I don’t play around with the three-second eye gaze. I do that quiet often. Those two little seconds make a huge difference. It conveys that you find them attractive but aren’t one-hundred percent positive you would like to fornicate. It’s usually followed up with a smile, a slight nod and then an expressing of agreement and dismissal. Like, Hey you’re cute (smile, nod, exchange a look of agreement) I’m going to keep walking, Bye.

It’s just long enough to acknowledge that you’ve noticed each other and short enough not to give the wrong impression. Otherwise all other eye gazes are a second or less.

Try it out some time. I think you’ll find it amusing. You’ll also find a little smile helps. And If you don’t want to accidentally end up with a coffee shop stalker, try it at home in the mirror.

1) one-second gaze=normal

2) three-second gaze=hey your cute

3) five-second gaze=Fuck Me